Speed dating should be a fun experience!
Speed dating is a fun experience, but a lot of people tend to forget the fun part, and get too involved and serious about the entire exercise. Not only can that turn you off, but it defeats the whole purpose of the game.
Relax and have fun — that's the whole point of this thing. The real you cannot come forth and shine unless you're enjoying yourself and you're at your relaxed, most laid-back best. Nervousness is part of it, and that's okay because once it gets going, you'll be so engrossed in meeting all those new folks that you won't be paying any attention to your nervous state of mind. You can only turn on the law of attraction for love if you're really emotionally involved — and there's nothing that can put you on the path of finding your soulmate like a little bit of fun can.
The Do's and a Couple of Don'ts
Here are just a few things you can do to prepare yourself before you go speed dating:
Knowing what the game is all about is half the battle won. Speak to friends who have done it before or even read up on the subject to know what's in store for you. You'll have to answer some stock questions, so get ready with your answers so you don't waste time thinking what to say when you face those questions. There's no shame in rehearsing your lines just as if you were getting ready for a staged play. Life is a stage after all.
Read the question behind the question before you give your answer. Every question is trying to unearth something, and knowing what that something is can help you make your answer more relevant and to the point. Give an example or an instance that makes the answer clearer and easier to understand. If they ask about whether you and your friends are close and whether you argue a lot, they may be actually asking about your ability to resolve conflict and maintain good relations. Giving an example of an argument that you helped sort out, therefore, answers the real question behind the question.
Relax! That’s the one thing most speed daters forget to do. Try some of your favorite music or just sitting silently with your eyes closed in a meditative posture. Mentally clear your thoughts and prepare the way a sportsperson does just before an event or game. Even a few minutes of calming yourself down can be an amazingly effective tool right through the speed dating experience.
Never take any kind of stimulant or depressant to put you in the right mood. That includes pills, alcohol and anything else that you might be considering. You have to have your wits about you if you want to remember everything about 10-15 people that you will be meeting in a 90-minute timeframe.
Drink lots of water and get plenty of rest the night before your big speed dating event. You don't want to look like you've spent the night on the sidewalk, so make sure you're dressed to thrill. A little overkill here won't go amiss, because you want to make sure you make a good first impression on as many people as possible. However, don't go to the extreme of wearing a three-piece suit or your full military uniform because that's intimidating to most people — and it doesn't fit the occasion.
If this is your first time speed dating, take a good friend along as a security-blanket-type accompaniment. A friend of the opposite sex works best because you may be putting yourself in competition for the same partner as the evening progresses.
Above all else, be yourself and have fun. Speed dating is a good step towards finding your soulmate and you may even find them here. The law of attraction for love works wonders, and any time might be the best time to bump into the love of your life. Treat speed dating as a potential meeting ground for your soulmate, but don't get so serious with it that you take all the fun out of it.